I recently came across a really interesting article based on a survey looking at parents staying together for the sake of their children The survey was called out by Directline. Some parts of this survey really jumped out at me and I wanted to add some thoughts on them: I can see the generational difference in how long parents stayed together but even amongst younger parents it was still 3 years. Often in family mediation one of the things…
Recently I added a blog post aimed at giving more information to those thinking about mediation and collating various pieces of information that are contained across the extensive range of blogs on the LKW Family Mediation website This got me thinking about whether those coming into mediation, or going through a separation generally, really understand the full range of things that can be talked about in mediation. So the list below is of conversations that have been facilitated by me…
I was asked a question the other day about family mediation and it occurred to me that I wasn’t sure there was a blog post with the information in. I’m quite sure there is a wealth of information on this topic across the blog but I felt it might be helpful to have it in one place. The question focused on two things: Do you have to be on the same page to try family mediation; and What do you…
If you’ve spent any time with family lawyers or mediators recently then I hope they have told you what utter nonsense the divorce day phenomena is. The media love some kind of divorce scandal and the idea that everyone is suddenly making a beeline for lawyers after a bad Christmas is: rubbish distasteful Not helpful to those sadly in this situation In this video Louisa shares some thoughts on why she hates this whole idea and why she feels…
This is the last in our series of blogs talking about the practical side of arrangements for children. We have talked about what you need to sort out, whether children can cope with two homes, and how to have that difficult conversation with them about separation. In this blog we’re talking whether parents have to agree on all aspects of parenting. This is a tough subject for many separating parents. Often differences in parenting can have been a factor in…
This is the third blog looking at practical realities of making arrangements for children as part of a divorce or separation. You can also look at the blog looking at what arrangements you need to make and also a blog looking at whether children can cope with having two homes and two bedrooms. Another question we get asked is how do we tell our children we’re separating? It is not unusual for couples to come into family mediation and use…
This is our second blog talking about practical children issues. In the last blog in this series we looked at whether children can adjust to having two homes and two bedrooms. In this blog we’re talking about what do you actually have to sort out. This is something that can be confusing for parents. Many parents assume that there is some kind of central body that they have to register with, or someone they have to report their arrangements too.…
In a new series of blogs we’re looking at the practical side of making arrangements for children. This week we’re asking whether children can cope with two homes. It is something that comes up a lot in mediation – is it better to have one home and see the other parent, or should children have two homes and two bedrooms? Firstly, it is important to bear in mind that there is very little law on what arrangements parents should make…
This is the last in our series of blogs looking at giving help to you to navigate your separation. The aim of this series has been to look at the issue of separation from different angles and give you things to think about that will hopefully help you through this process (both the administrative and financial process and the emotional healing process). We have talked about the grief of divorce and how real this is. We have also talked about…
This is the third blog in a slightly different series focusing on you and your separation and what might help you at any given moment. In this series we’ve looked at the grief of divorce and we’ve taken a more holistic focus looking at the energy of divorce and the link between thoughts, emotions and mental and physical health problems. To watch the video talking about what to do in the immediate aftermath of a separation click on the…
