Working through a family breakdown can leave you exhausted and angry. Mediation can help smooth the process
Never has a period of time brought forth such use of the word “unprecedented”. The use is of course justified as these are times for which there simply is no road map or blueprint. Lockdown is a situation that was only put in place previously during airstrikes during World War II. Even then the situation was not entirely the same. I have already written guidance for those self-isolating in a house with a partner they’re separating from. I now want…
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I was asked a question the other day about family mediation and it occurred to me that I wasn’t sure there was a blog post with the information in. I’m quite sure there is a wealth of information on this topic across the blog but I felt it might be helpful to have it in one place. The question focused on two things: Do you have to be on the same page to try family mediation; and What do you…
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A far cry from the Victorian idea that children should be seen and not heard. It is now accepted that children need to feel they’re being heard and this is especially important when their parents separate. Louisa gives some tips in this video for ensuring that you hear your children’s voices during the separation.
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In our family mediation sessions we see people in a range of places. Sometimes people have started to come to terms with their separation, other times both parties have moved on by the time they come to sort things out. Generally speaking it can often make matters easier to resolve where you have both moved at least a good way through the healing process. Sometimes that’s just not possible and there can be compelling emotional and financial reasons to resolve…
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This is a guest blog by Una Archer, a psychologist who specialises in supporting children’s emotional security. She helps separated parents to protect their children from the negative impact of the separation and to resolve the emotional and behavioural issues that might crop up along the way. Details of how to connect with Una appear at the end of the blog below. I loved reading Louisa’s thoughts and advice in her blog post Are You Taking Responsibility? As…
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Change can be something that is very difficult to get on board with. This can especially be the case where it comes as part of a separation and you have to contemplate changes to things you had always felt were safe and permanent. It can also be more challenging where you have to face challenges you do not want to happen. In this video Louisa talks about facing up to changes and how difficult that can be and how to…
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You may have read something about MIAMS online? Or you may have been told by your lawyer that you need to see a mediator for one? But you may be utterly confused as to what this entails and what you need to do and why. This video explains more about MIAMS (Mediation Information and Assessment meetings). It talks about when you might need one and why and what they entail.
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Albert Einstein apparently said “the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result”. This can be applied to many situations and certainly to conflict and relationships following a separation. In this video Louisa Whitney talks about this and how to break out of this cycle.
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There are so many ways in which people can be fearful following a separation or divorce. Louisa shares her own experience of feeling fearful when she left her job as a solicitor to set up LKW Family Mediation. She explains how she drew inspiration from her clients’ stories of facing their own fears during the separation.
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In this video we talk about the importance of the mediator remaining impartial. A crucial part of this is ensuring that the mediator does not keep secrets from either party. Find out more about this by watching the video:
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