Looking after the children during family break up, separation and divorce
This blog is the focus on the second tip for minimising the effects of your separation on your children. It’s about finding a system that works for you, and, crucially, works for your children. We often get asked what the ‘usual’ arrangements are for separating parents. The truth is that there is no such thing. There is no law, rule or specified time that each parent must spend with their children following a separation. There are only arrangements that will…
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In this Facebook live we talk more following our blog about communication between separated parents and why it’s so important. We look at why communication matters, and what to do when it really isn’t working. We suggest ways you can acquire communication skills and make things better when talking to each other is providing difficult.
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When you separate from a partner the thought of continuing to have a relationship with the other person may be something that causes you upset, discomfort or stress. But if you have children that is the reality of the situation. You will need to talk about any issues that crop up to do with their schooling, their health, their behaviour or anything else significant. It may also be important to your children that you are both able to attend ‘big’…
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This Facebook Live follows on from our recent blog giving our top 5 tips for minimising the effects of your separation on your children. The video talks about each point in more detail.
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In this blog we are sharing our top 5 tips for helping your children as much as possible during your separation. This will be a series of blogs as we will then be blogging on each point in more detail in the next weeks. There can be lots of questions when you separate about how to manage things to minimise the effect of your separation on your children, how to tell them about the separation, and how to deal with…
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In a recent blog talking about the rise and role of divorce coaches we talked about using them for support in coping with divorce and in mapping out life after separation and what that will look like for you. Understandably when we start to talk to clients about bringing in other experts their immediate concern is the cost of paying a number of different professionals. They often say to us that they don’t have much money and need to keep…
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Following our blog about what happens for children after a separation we went live on Facebook to talk more about this including highlighting key messages and looking at where to get help if you feel your children are struggling or you’ve noticed changes in their behaviour that you’re concerned about.
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In a recent blog post we talked about what happens after a separation and how you can come back from a low place to contemplate and eventually embrace life after divorce? We gave some tips for divorce recovery both in the short term and the long term. You can have a look at that blog by clicking here. We’re now revisiting that question but from the perspective of children whose parents are separating. It can be difficult getting the…
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In mediation we sometimes see parents where the relationship between one parent and the child or children is starting to break down, or has already. That person can present as being frustrated with what is happening, very sad at the turn of events, extremely angry or a combination of all of these and more. The reasons for this are varied but at this stage we should make clear that we are talking about situations where neither parent presents a risk…
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A far cry from the Victorian idea that children should be seen and not heard. It is now accepted that children need to feel they’re being heard and this is especially important when their parents separate. Louisa gives some tips in this video for ensuring that you hear your children’s voices during the separation.
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