I see the strain it puts on my clients going through a separation, writes Michelle Rumsey (family mediator and therapist), and the range of emotions and challenges it brings up for individuals. The loss of so many aspects and changes. There is no doubt during this difficult time looking after your wellbeing is important. I know when I have pressures in my life, I tend to focus on getting through each day and put my own needs to one side.…
In a divorce pensions can be one of the biggest assets people have (or even the biggest) but many people put them on the back seat when it comes to working out what happens next. There are understandable reasons for this: unless you are approaching your retirement you are unlikely to be able to access your pension (yes there are rules on potentially taking money from your pensions after the age of 55 but this should only be done in…
This is the final part in our blog series looking at what positives there might be following a separation. As we’ve highlighted those going through a separation don’t always see them immediately but it can simply help to know that there might be positives further down the line. The first blog was the introduction and talked about why positives are important, and especially right now during the pandemic. The second blog talked about how there can be an improved relationship with…
Welcome to this third part in the blog series looking at trying to find the light at the end of the tunnel following a separation. We hope to highlight some positives that you may not have thought of to keep you going in the more difficult moments. It can also be a part of the healing process to start to open up to the possibility that there can be some positives to your separation. These might start really small (so…
The other day I was thinking about new blog topics for February and it occurred to me that I always seem to look at the difficulties in separation. There’s an obvious reason for this (well many really): There are many difficulties in divorce and separation It’s my job to help those going through it to navigate this tricky path So many issues arise from separating from a partner But I have also been mindful of how difficult people are finding…
So this blog brings us to the end of our series on dealing with the immediate aftermath of a separation. If you haven’t already seen the blogs then the first one set the scene and suggested some things to think about for those that weren’t sure they had yet made the decision to separate. We then shared some tips on how to tell your partner you want a separation. This is an enormously difficult conversation to have but doing it…
In this blog series we are looking at the immediate days and weeks following the decision to separate. In the first blog we gave some guidance on some things you might want to consider in order to be sure that you have exhausted all avenues in making the decision to separate. Most people want to feel that they have tried their hardest to save the relationship before ending it. In the second blog we gave some tips on how to…
If you’ve followed this blog for any length of time then you will know that here at LKW Family Mediation we are not a fan of media divorce myths and the so called “divorce day” is no different. The statistics simply do not bear out the idea that there is a deluge of divorce petitions in January. For those that do make the decision to separate in January it does a disservice to this difficult decision to write frivolous articles…
“It’s the most wonderful time of the year”. That’s how the song goes and oh, how I do love a Christmas song. The cheesier the better in my opinion. But for some families who have gone through a separation, Christmas and the run up to the festive season is anything but wonderful. In fact, it is incredibly stressful and upsetting. Whether it’s because there are differing views on arrangements, bad feelings between parents or it’s not your turn to have…
In this third blog Emma reflects on 2020 and her experience of being a mediator during the global pandemic. Over to you Emma…… The end is in sight. The end of 2020, that is. And thank goodness for that. This time last year few of us could have predicted what was coming our way and how all of our lives would change so dramatically. Not being able to go to work, not being able to see our family, our kids…
