This is the final part in our blog series looking at what positives there might be following a separation.  As we’ve highlighted those going through a separation don’t always see them immediately but it can simply help to know that there might be positives further down the line. The first blog was the introduction and talked about why positives are important, and especially right now during the pandemic.  The second blog talked about how there can be an improved relationship with your children following a separation.  Again these changes might be more in the longer term, rather than the short term, but keeping an eye on changes in the short term can help to shine a light on what things might be like at the end of the tunnel.

In the third blog we looked at the positives there might be for you following a separation.  We gave some examples so you can see that there could be positives, even if you don’t recognise them in your situation right now.

In this blog we thought it might be helpful to just share a bit of inspiration with you to keep you going if you’re finding things tough or difficult right now.  If you do feel stuck, or that there simply might never be life that doesn’t feel like it does now then have a look at our blog.  There is such a wealth of resource in it that you will likely find something that speaks to your current challenges.  Don’t forget there is also our online shop that has affordable resources for anyone going through a separation.  You only need to pay for each resource once and then you and your partner can both use them.

We also run the Soulful Separation Support group which is an online community for anyone going through a separation.  You can get support there from others who are also on this journey.  There are also professionals in there like us who can offer you support and guidance with issues you’re finding tricky.

Finding light in the dark places is often challenging in a separation.

We’ve also included some inspirational quotes below and added our interpretation to them if you’re feeling a bit short on inspiration and not feeling like there is any light at the end of the tunnel.


“Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

We don’t know anything about Thich Nhat Hanh but a google search tells us that he is a Vietnamese Thien Buddhist Monk and peace activist who founded the Plum Village Tradition.  This quote needs little explanation.  We all need hope for tomorrow to get us through the challenges today.


“It is only in our darkest hours that we may discover the true strength of the brilliant light within ourselves that can never, ever, be dimmed.” – Doe Zantamata

This quote resonated strongly with Louisa Whitney who can see that some of the greatest challenges of her professional and personal life have made her realise the strength she has and she now draws on this in any challenging situation.  Louisa also explains that she feels she can move back to a more positive place in any challenge now because of the strength she has gained from previous challenges.  Doe is an author, artist and photographer who wrote the Happiness in Your Life book series.

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.” – Nelson Mandela

This quote makes us want to play the Andra Day track “Rise Up”.  It never fails to make us feel more powerful and worthy in each challenging moment.  What music makes you feel more worthy and more powerful?  Why not play a track today?

Finally this quote that we saw courtesy of the website gave us chills because so often going through a separation can really feel like you’re battling a big head wind and just not getting anywhere.  We understand that feeling.  But what if this was just preparation for take off?


Do you feel like you’ve taken off into the wind?

We hope you’ve found these quotes inspiring.  If anything has inspired you in your separation then please add it below or email us to tell us about it so we can pass it on to others who might need it.