Family mediation can help you cope with the divorce process
Hands up all the perfect parents out there. What? No-one. That’s right. There are no perfect parents. Hardly groundbreaking news but sometimes it’s worth remembering writes Emma Ingham. Parents are just people, trying to do their best, but sometimes – even a lot of the time – making mistakes. And the feeling of making mistakes can be heightened when you are going through a separation and potentially arguing with your ex-partner. Sometimes these arguments will happen in front of your…
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8 Tools from Positive Psychology to help you feel happier after your divorce. Positive Psychology is the science of happiness and is concerned with helping individuals flourish and thrive in life. Whereas traditional Psychology looks at what’s ‘wrong’ with people, Positive Psychology focuses on the positives and negatives equally. It focuses on what’s going well in your life, with your relationships and work and building on your strengths. We’re all hardwired to focus more on the negative things in life……
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When couples who are going through a separation come to talk about how their children will spend their time for the first Christmas (or in fact any other special day or celebration) it can be a tough ask. It’s a special day and it’s likely you have always spent it with your children. So facing the thought of what to do can mean that one of you won’t see your children on this special day. This is tough and something…
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How can family mediation help with who gets the dog? Family Mediation is known for supporting couples with financial settlements writes Michelle Rumsey and childcare arrangements. As family mediators our roles are not isolated to only financial and children, we incorporate a wide range of other areas. One area in particular that has increased over the years is the family dog and ‘Who gets the dog?’. Dogs are part of the family and may people find the way the court…
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Dealing with the breakdown of a relationship can be heart breaking at the best of times but if you are going through a divorce and you didn’t want to separate, it can be overwhelming. If this sounds familiar, here are a few ways mediation can help; Give yourself time – In mediation, you will never feel rushed into making any decisions or changes until you feel ready. It is your process and mediation will proceed at a pace both parties…
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It’s a truth universally acknowledged (by family mediators anyway), that mediation has many benefits. For example, it is widely accepted that family mediation is quicker, more cost effective and less acrimonious than going to court. Here are three further benefits to family mediation that you might not have thought of: It is empowering You are in control when you come to mediation. You can choose the mediator, someone you feel you can work with and trust. You can choose the…
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This is the final part in our blog series looking at what positives there might be following a separation. As we’ve highlighted those going through a separation don’t always see them immediately but it can simply help to know that there might be positives further down the line. The first blog was the introduction and talked about why positives are important, and especially right now during the pandemic. The second blog talked about how there can be an improved relationship with…
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Welcome to this third part in the blog series looking at trying to find the light at the end of the tunnel following a separation. We hope to highlight some positives that you may not have thought of to keep you going in the more difficult moments. It can also be a part of the healing process to start to open up to the possibility that there can be some positives to your separation. These might start really small (so…
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The other day I was thinking about new blog topics for February and it occurred to me that I always seem to look at the difficulties in separation. There’s an obvious reason for this (well many really): There are many difficulties in divorce and separation It’s my job to help those going through it to navigate this tricky path So many issues arise from separating from a partner But I have also been mindful of how difficult people are finding…
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So this blog brings us to the end of our series on dealing with the immediate aftermath of a separation. If you haven’t already seen the blogs then the first one set the scene and suggested some things to think about for those that weren’t sure they had yet made the decision to separate. We then shared some tips on how to tell your partner you want a separation. This is an enormously difficult conversation to have but doing it…
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