A big theme in new enquiries to LKW Family Mediation recently has been the fear that the other person won’t engage in the family mediation process, or that they won’t engage with good grace. We have honestly lost count of the number of times that we’ve been told the other person won’t come to a meeting only to have them reply that they’d really like to come and when can they book an appointment. Money is of course tight during…
I was recently approached to prepare a leaflet to help family law professionals explain to clients what is involved in family mediation and what the benefits are. This was such a good idea that it seemed worth sharing with other professionals. The leaflet is only one side of A4 and it covers what happens in mediation, what the benefits are and what to do if you’re still worried about attending mediation after reading the leaflet. To download your copy…
A far cry from the Victorian idea that children should be seen and not heard. It is now accepted that children need to feel they’re being heard and this is especially important when their parents separate. Louisa gives some tips in this video for ensuring that you hear your children’s voices during the separation.
When you first separate from a partner it is natural and normal to feel emotional. You are experiencing a significant life change. In mediation we often see clients who are very emotional at their first meeting. Sometimes your emotion may spill out as soon as you get into the room. Other times you can keep a lid on your emotions until such time as we ask you about your children and how they’re coping with the separation. There can be…
In our family mediation sessions we see people in a range of places. Sometimes people have started to come to terms with their separation, other times both parties have moved on by the time they come to sort things out. Generally speaking it can often make matters easier to resolve where you have both moved at least a good way through the healing process. Sometimes that’s just not possible and there can be compelling emotional and financial reasons to resolve…
In this video Louisa Whitney outlines some useful places to look for support in a separation. Links to the resources found in the video can be found on our website by clicking here The video covers help with understanding processes like the divorce or court processes as well as resources to help you manage your children’s feelings and emotions.
When you separate from a partner you can often faced tough decisions about what happens next. In this video Louisa talks about the importance of making informed decisions about what happens next and what that looks like in practice.
We all have a narrative. This is a personal story that we tell ourselves. It’s full of things that we think we do well and things we think we don’t do well. It’s also a moral code of sorts and made up of things that we think it’s OK to do and things it’s not OK to do. This partly comes from childhood and partly from other people and experiences in our lives. Our personal narrative is not always…
Happy New Year! In this latest video Louisa reflects on how difficult Christmas can be for couples who’ve separated, especially dealing with the first Christmas not being with your children for the entire period. Louisa also talks about some exciting new developments coming to LKW Family Mediation in 2018. Have a look here:
This sounds like a slightly strange title for a video but all is explained. Louisa talks about how changing how she viewed a certain issue opened up new opportunities for her and talks about the parallels between this and how she approaches mediation. You can watch the video below
