In this blog we are sharing our top 5 tips for helping your children as much as possible during your separation. This will be a series of blogs as we will then be blogging on each point in more detail in the next weeks. There can be lots of questions when you separate about how to manage things to minimise the effect of your separation on your children, how to tell them about the separation, and how to deal with…
Do you need a support team when you separate or is one professional sufficient? Louisa discusses this question and likens it to the old saying about needing a village to raise a child. She talks about the costs of having a team and the benefits and what kind of professionals you may benefit from having during a separation. https://youtu.be/L4gXpsTAs84
We’re often told that we must be very patient to be a family mediator. Patience may be one skill but there are others that we would suggest are far more important. These are the skills that we identify as being crucial to family mediation and to helping couples to resolve family disputes: Problem solving skills: often it is the logistics of making arrangements for children; or working out how both partners can be housed with the money they have…
In a recent blog talking about the rise and role of divorce coaches we talked about using them for support in coping with divorce and in mapping out life after separation and what that will look like for you. Understandably when we start to talk to clients about bringing in other experts their immediate concern is the cost of paying a number of different professionals. They often say to us that they don’t have much money and need to keep…
We feel we have addressed the question of how family mediation works and the benefits of using this process in cases where there are two separated partners. We’ve also talked about involving children in child mediation, known as Child Inclusive Mediation. But what happens where your family set up is more complicated than that? Is family mediation still an option that can be used? In looking at this blog we are thinking primarily about the following situations: Step…
For a number of people coming into family mediation there is a real fear around what happens if they don’t find a resolution in mediation. Let’s face it life after separation is hard enough without investing time and effort in something that doesn’t elicit a resolution. Those going through a separation worry about family mediation costs and it is natural to ask the question what will happen if it doesn’t work. The only dispute resolution process that guarantees a result…
It might sound a strange question but we see a lot of clients who either aren’t sure whether there is any chance of saving their marriage, or who have been told that the other person wants the relationship to end but they don’t. So this begs the question how do you know when a marriage or relationship is at an end? Firstly, any relationship needs two people to want it to work, and for it to be able to…
If you’re going through a separation or a divorce and have been looking for information online then you may have come across divorce coaches. You may be wondering what they do or whether they can help you to get through a divorce. Coaching seems to be an increasing trend in recent years and you may be wondering whether divorce coaching is just a step too far and what it’s all about. We’re often talking about the importance of accessing…
Following our blog about what happens for children after a separation we went live on Facebook to talk more about this including highlighting key messages and looking at where to get help if you feel your children are struggling or you’ve noticed changes in their behaviour that you’re concerned about.
In a recent blog post we talked about what happens after a separation and how you can come back from a low place to contemplate and eventually embrace life after divorce? We gave some tips for divorce recovery both in the short term and the long term. You can have a look at that blog by clicking here. We’re now revisiting that question but from the perspective of children whose parents are separating. It can be difficult getting the…
