In the second blog of this 4 part series we’re continuing our focus on how your family will change as a result of separation. In the first blog we invited you to notice the little changes that you may perhaps have not appreciated the significance of and to be alert to them. In this next blog I’m talking about creating a vision of what you want your family life to look like post separation. This is something I feel…
It is an obvious fact that separation will change your family but often people focus on the big changes rather than the smaller ones that can feel significant. You may also each feel differently about how your family is changing and it’s important to recognise this. One person may feel more positive about the changes than the other, for instance. In this four part blog series we are going to walk you through how your family might be changing and…
This set of blogs is a return to the 4 part blog series to look at issues in more dept and to break issues down into manageable chunks for those feeling overwhelmed by issues relating to their separation. You can look at the first part of the blog talking about practical arrangements for preparing for mediation. You can also look at the second blog which invites you to consider how emotionally ready you are for family mediation. The third…
This set of blogs is a return to the 4 part blog series to look at issues in more dept and to break issues down into manageable chunks for those feeling overwhelmed by issues relating to their separation. You can look at the first part of the blog talking about practical arrangements for preparing for mediation. You can also look at the second blog which invites you to consider how emotionally ready you are for family mediation. In…
This set of blogs is a return to the 4 part blog series to look at issues in more dept and to break issues down into manageable chunks for those feeling overwhelmed by issues relating to their separation. You can look at the first part of the blog talking about practical arrangements for preparing for mediation. In this blog we will look at the emotional aspects of preparing for mediation. How emotionally ready do you feel for mediation? Do…
I thought I would trial going back to 4 part blogs again. I did this previously and I take an issue and break it down into different parts. It enables me to look at things from more angles but it also means the blogs are shorter (in theory!). I’ve noticed my blog length creeping up lately and whilst I think that is helpful sometimes I am also conscious that for those going through a separation overwhelm can kick in quickly. …
Have you ever gone to offload to a friend or family member and found yourself feeling annoyed by their apparently sympathetic response but not being sure quite why? Or perhaps you have put your finger on it and felt they simply wanted to offer you solutions but you wanted to talk about how upset you were? You knew what the solutions were, you just didn’t want to embrace them yet. A common difference between both partners in a couple…
This blog post gives tips on how to remain calm – especially in circumstances where you may feel you are far from calm. You may be feeling a variety of different emotions: anger, panic, anxiety, sadness, helplessness, disempowerment, mistrust, fear and guilt to name but a few. Why do I need to stay calm? You may be wondering what the benefit is of staying calm. Especially during the anger phase of the recovery cycle following a separation, you may feel…
It’s fair to say that COVID-19 has brought with it a fair number of changes for people and many people have had to adapt to new ways of working almost overnight. Some have had to adjust to being furloughed, some to home schooling whilst homeworking, others to going out to work in a job that suddenly feels a lot more high risk and high pressured (and may have felt pretty high risk and high pressured before this!). For the purposes…
One of the things you hear as a mediator is something that sounds like one of the following: My ex won’t come to mediation My ex won’t co-operate My ex isn’t listening to me I don’t think he/she/they will……… We don’t communicate We can’t communicate Is that you? From a mediator’s perspective there can be a multitude of reasons for this and many of them are not permanent but temporary issues. Since it’s something that crops up a lot it…
